a test to be content

I realized this morning that today was likely the day we’d hear any news because when I contacted the kiddos’ social worker on Wednesday she had not been in contact with bio dad yet.  I kept my phone out during lunch just in case the social worker was going to call.


It was 3:30pm and I had one final project that I needed to submit before taking off for the weekend.  10 short proposals to write.  I can do this in an hour.

I was able to focus on my project and was on a roll.  3:23pm I texted my husband, “3 left!”

3:35pm the social worker’s name pops up on my phone.

I answer.  It’s muffled.

She reports that bio dad is continuing to express interest in voluntarily terminating his rights.

I cover my mouth.  My eyes and heart want to weep.

She explains some of the details… he wants a visit this month (April) and next month (May) with big brother and little sister.  My husband and I have all sorts of paperwork to prepare (mainly up-to-date medical exams for the children).

The next leg of the journey hopefully won’t be as rocky, but it might seem lengthy.  The social worker estimates the adoption could be finalized in 3-4 months.  All baring we check off every step.

You know me… I like flow charts… or at least my husband does because it helps understand what’s ahead.  Here’s what’s left between today and ADOPTION…


We are feeling all sorts of emotions.  Excitement, surprise, anger (that two visits are requested instead of just one to say goodbye), gladness, and relief.

Please join us in praying…

  • That we can get big brother’s psy eval scheduled in the next 30 days
  • For wisdom as my husband and I prepare mentally and emotionally to support the children through the deepest grief experience of their lives
  • For the tender hearts of big brother and little sister who do not have any awareness of these steps, the courage it will require of them, and the bittersweet future that lies ahead

This morning on the drive to school little sister and I talked about being content with what you have.  She was complaining about a toy, but, I feel like today has come full circle and I should be content.  Content that even though the news isn’t what I would have planned… it is GOOD news and it means that we will be a forever family of 4 (plus 2 dogs).  And I should be content in the reality of the present.  That I should be content in the amazing fulfillment of a vision to adopt.  To adopt such precious children.  To walk alongside them from childhood to adulthood.  From chaos to safety.  From curiosity to confidence.  Their full potential will flourish.  They will be loved and cherished forever.

P.S.  Incase you’re wondering… I did finish my project.  I accidentally typed over one of the files and had to re-do it and I was slightly stressed when 5pm rolled around… but I did get it done.

published 4/10/2015

Published by MarcyBursac

Marcy is an adoptive mom of a sibling pair. Adoption was her Plan A. While remote schooling her children during the pandemic, Marcy felt compassion for the remaining 120,000 U.S. children who are waiting in foster care to be adopted. Wanting to share that foster care adoption is the most affordable way to adopt with a financial cost of $0-$2,500, she wrote a book and started a podcast both called "The Forgotten Adoption Option" to find more forever families.

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