She said yes…

We had a 30-minute call with the team and bio family today and it was brought up that bio dad signed the consent to terminate his parental rights.  The topic was broached with bio mom about her predicament and rights… apparently there is a statute that states that if a parent involuntarily (not by choice)Continue reading “She said yes…”

34 days until the goodbye visit

So what exactly is going on in our home and hearts right now? As our kids would say, “A little bit of this, and a little bit of that.” Name Writing Big brother has been practicing spelling his first and last name for a full year now.  Although, if asked, he knows his first nameContinue reading “34 days until the goodbye visit”

“She signed”

I read these exact words as a text this afternoon and immediately jumped up from my desk with cheerleader style “woo!” arms. I hugged the other women on my team one by one and we celebrated and reviewed the next steps.  What a milestone. (No, I was never a cheerleader but my high school crossContinue reading ““She signed””

3 more Fridays…

This week marked a pretty big and unexpected milestone.  The kids have their adopted first and last name on a printed document!! Pool passes. Okay… so it’s not a legal document, but it is something furnished by another party that has big brother and little sister’s NAMES on them. Pardon me while I do aContinue reading “3 more Fridays…”

a soggy tissue and a firm high five

There are moments in life when you feel a sense of relief when a friend breaks up with someone who totally treated them like trash.  And then there are moments when you’re the person who was broken up with and you weep surprised that you were broken up with at all. Maybe these feelings areContinue reading “a soggy tissue and a firm high five”

anticipating the surprise…

*MILESTONE ALERT* My partner and I signed the first set of papers tonight that get us one step closer to getting the adoption hearing schedule!!  Lord-willing, the 45 day timer will start in the next week. AND as it turns out… we should be able to move the adoption hearing to earlier in August.  Yes,Continue reading “anticipating the surprise…”

a hiccup follows yesterday’s milestone, please pray

After trying out scenarios for the closing/goodbye visit (i.e. will bio mom announce her pregnancy, will bio gma and great gma say they will see the kiddos again when they are 18… I pray these conversations do not happen), it dawned on me that having the adoption hearing in the old town is totally notContinue reading “a hiccup follows yesterday’s milestone, please pray”

I surrender.

This week has been filled with wavering emotions by the hour.  I’m fortunate to have running partners who are helping me process and prepare for this coming weekend.  Likewise, my life partner is riding this out with me arm in arm as are my wonderful co-workers. I’ve had moments of anger thinking about how onContinue reading “I surrender.”

“I didn’t want to tell you…”

We took our first family vacation last week. Parts were magical.  Parts were carefree. Parts were full of teaching big brother and little sister what a vacation is… it’s about resting, having fun, and trying new things. We stayed on a private 60-acre lake and spent waking hours fishing, boating, swimming, and also make s’mores.Continue reading ““I didn’t want to tell you…””